The “No’s” have begun. I don’t mean the normal toddler refusing-to-do-whatever-is-asked “No’s.” I mean the use of the word for no reason at all, other than to be contrary.
“Dom, do you want a new toy?”
“NO!”
“Do you want a cookie?”
“NO!”
“Are your shoes red or are they blue?”
“NO!”
“Which book would you like to read?”
“NO!”
Those are actual examples, just from yesterday.
“No” can be used in a tantrum, to state independence, or to tease us. Lately, a lot of teasing has been going on in our house. Dom likes to lay on top of me while I read to him. The other day, I really needed a bathroom break, and he wouldn’t get up. Instead, he giggled and said, “No.”
Periodically, I would ask, “Can I please go potty now?”
“No!” he’d laugh, bouncing on my bladder.
“No” can also be used to cause major embarrassment to Mommy and Daddy. For instance, at church, when a really nice older lady moves down one seat and says, “Would you like to sit next to me, precious?” Or when the owner of your favorite restaurant comes over to ask, “Did you like your dinner?”
Whenever possible, if Dom answers “No,” I take him at his word. You would think he would figure out that, sometimes, answering “No” gives him the exact opposite result of what he actually wants. Sometimes, it’s counterproductive. I know the boy’s not stupid, so I can only guess at his reasoning.
It could be that he’s testing boundaries. It could be that he hears “No” from me far too often. Or it could be that his sense of humor is currently stuck on the it’s-so-not-funny-that-it’s-funny phase. (Trust me, Dom – it’s not funny).
Whatever his reasoning, “No” is really, really, really getting on my nerves. Really.